Looking Forward for First Relationship

[YungSernLang 0]

i din say i cannot accept negative view, but u are sorta like acting with the spoiled kid attitude + bad comment each ppl post with negative x2 comment, which spoil ppl moods,
if ur negative comment is reasonable, i wouldnt mind to read it, but if its like using ur sarcastic comment to fire my post here, better think twice, you sounded matured, while your
writting seems to be negative, sarcastic, not down to earth, and teruk lah.....

i wonder who produce this kind of ppl, sikap buruk, mulut jahat, cakap tak guna otak der fella....
if i am lidat, sad, even i got what also sad, cause not getting respect, hear tat ?
DUMB!

[annie90 0]

Hey YungSernLang，
I have some questions wanna to ask you...hehe since you're willing to share your LOVE in this forum.
DO guys want to find a 'life partner' till forever?I mean till marry and have babies.....
Hehe..
Thanks yeah!

[parrotsim 0]

Hey YungSernLang，
I have some questions wanna to ask you...hehe since you're willing to share your LOVE in this forum.
DO guys want to find a 'life partner' till forever?I mean till marry and have babies.....
Hehe..
Thanks yeah!

forever is a dream..i only treasure what i am having now,i wont consider too much abt the future,cos love is stg so unpredictable..good things come to those who wait but good timing is equally important as well~~

[YungSernLang 0]

Hey YungSernLang，
I have some questions wanna to ask you...hehe since you're willing to share your LOVE in this forum.
DO guys want to find a 'life partner' till forever?I mean till marry and have babies.....
Hehe..
Thanks yeah!

like wat parrotsim says, forever is just a dream, but why not,
i'm looking for a person to stay along, get married, have few kids, and caring each other until each other give out the last breath.
but somehow for me i found mine, and i do hope we'll get engaged before 24, so i can lock her heart within mine.

but its also depend ba, some ppl find partner to ease their desperate for gf, some ppl find bcause scare lonely,
some ppl get a girl because of nothing also got, but for me, i get a girl to spend my life with
and luckily i found my dream angel.

[annie90 0]

but its also depend ba, some ppl find partner to ease their desperate for gf, some ppl find bcause scare lonely,
some ppl get a girl because of nothing also got, but for me, i get a girl to spend my life with
and luckily i found my dream angel.

Last time I used to think guys are bad and not loyal or faithful..But from what you shared with us here, I am gradually changing my mind and trying to accept the fact some guys are really good.
YungSernLang, wish you good luck and try to with your gf forever. Salute U!!! Edited June 15, 2009 by annie90

[YungSernLang 0]

Last time I used to think guys are bad and not loyal or faithful..But from what you shared with us here, I am gradually changing my mind and trying to accept the fact some guys are really good.
YungSernLang, wish you good luck and try to with your gf forever. Salute U!!!

Thx annie for the blessing and praise,
a word of truth from guy like me, just try understand it.

Guys behavior and personality change quite easily, but their Attitude Don'ts, the might change to a different person u might know, or even because their surroundings, they tend to accept thing either in positive or negative way, like how i am, when i'm still secondary, i was looking only for pretty girls, u know, all those school queens, or hot chicks with cute looks, big boobs, nice butt, slender hourglass body, and killing eyes, you can imagine how much guys are attracted to those bomb shells.

but slowly when i'm growing up, i blend myself into the working - studying world, where, "Hey Plump Girl Can Be Attractive Too, They Got the Shape, They Got The Sweet Personality, They Got The Confident" makes me mix alot with any kind of people(just dont get into branded items like i am now, very wasting!!!!!!!)so when working, guys learn alot, whats means dating, what means career, what means love for.

Until now, everyone says i am much matured than my age, and dont talk like one, i'm only 22, earning at least 2.5k or reaching 5-6k sometimes, a diploma graduates, and act like an adult, hunble and never lost my patient n temper no matter in what condition. calm and honest(this is truEE!!!)never being mischevious toward the world cause i had been seeing people since child until now, and i dare to say myself, I Got Full Confident on myself in everything i gotta do.

so, dun look on guys just by how they act, but understand them, because if the guy is someone worth to own you, they will change, they will repair their flaw, they will love and loyal on you no matter how naughty they are, as long you know whats a girls role to act, and what a guys role to act, Happily Ever after are coming next.


Cheers!

[Zech 0]

Great to see that you have confidence of yourself!

Just be natural and no need purposely cover up things that you might think are flaws or shortcomings.. coz eventually in long term, couples are to live not only enjoying the mutual goodness from the relationship, but also tolerating the not-so-pleasant parts from each others. Mutual understanding and acceptance play very important roles!

And of coz, if you could fix the flaws and willing to put your effort on it to PERMANENTLY get rid of it for good. Then by all means go for it!

[timothyngim 0]

Last time I used to think guys are bad and not loyal or faithful..But from what you shared with us here, I am gradually changing my mind and trying to accept the fact some guys are really good.
YungSernLang, wish you good luck and try to with your gf forever. Salute U!!!

u ar, annie90....actualy not all guys are bad...me is one of the gud one...when I fall in love wit a girl, I alwiz think of me, and her, and wit a little baby between us
Maybe tats why I alwiz experience breakups before the relationships even starts lar :sad:

[YungSernLang 0]

Guys, My first obstacle coming i guess, T_T
so i guess really required u all to guide me abit, please, a productive answer ok ?

My girl starting to act very weird lately, i'm not sure of what happen to her, but she start to become less chattable, seems to be very meanie on me during the phone, which makes me cant get what she wanted to ask, i tried to talk to her, but she doesnt seems to be interested anymore, compare to last time, we use to talk about future, babies, and how we enjoy our day always.

She also being very demanding to see me, where i actually told her that if we are going out too much each day, My petrol cost + food Cost + family Perception doesnt goes well, cause i'm still not earning big bucks to spend as i like, and she is not working permanantly also, she seems love to pick up something to fight with, like, trying the dress and ask me is she fat ? i say no, just the dress not look nice on her, she should try some much more simple design, more lovely for her age, den she say, tats means she is fat, get angry on me, giving me the looks, and makes me used 1 1/2 hour to make she smile back.

She also love to ask me, do i love her more or she love me more, she is hesitate to give everything cause worry to get hurt, cause bad experience last time, cause she wan a person who love her more den she love him. i tried and tried n tried, but really dunno how to let her see la, she even going to compare me and tell me, There is a guy who treat her better den i do, or there is some1 wat her more den i do, how to do huh ? everytime making call to her, its will goes to this topic, i dun 1 talk about this all la, she is very sensative on this part...

last time she use to be a very outgoing and willing to sacrafice girl, she can go to college to wait me, or even went out to see me, but now, she seems demand me to fetch her out always, or get her by car(i really wanted to let her think about my cost on petrol la....rm30 per trip from her home - eat - walk - shop - date - home - myself go home, every 2 - 3 times a week makes me blood also come out ler...)
if lidat, b4 end of mth i already pokai spending on her, while she complain tat do i keep money for future, she want ppl tat got eyes on future la, bla bla bla...aiyo....

to be with her, i already trying to change quite alot
From Social drinker to hate to drink,
from Early birds bcome hantu malam(cause she wan chat chat at 1am - 3am)
from rm30- phone bill per mth bcome rm100(even with value 50 also reach 100, and its within 10day of this mth)
from outgoing bcome cinderelli (back home b4 12, report sms each quarter of day, askin her eat liao, drink liao, shit liao or whatever liao each hour)
from pilates guru + top sales bcome macam ghost who work for finish early and get to find her when she wants me ....
from small buying power into hampir tak cukup makan for current mth...

how to do ah ? teach me please, if this continue hor, i cant imagine will we able to last long also, i'm trying hard to please her already ler, but she easily to get angry la, easily to offended,sensative and love to give me hard time(ask me to come, and if i tell her, i try, she will angry and say, nvm la, like she want me more den i want her, thats y she always ask do i love her more or she love me more.. T_T)
or maybe we are going too fast(thats not problem for me, but for her, i guess, overall she is my first gf, i sure already giving out everything i could)we are actually already reach the intimacy stage(dont need me to explain more on this rite ?) but problem actually start after we did it...so i guess...really dunno wat can i try n do already...

Thx for reading my trouble now ler....i hope can last long ler the relationship...

Regards,
Joshua/Yungsern

[d3vil doll 0]

Guys, My first obstacle coming i guess, T_T
so i guess really required u all to guide me abit, please, a productive answer ok ?

My girl starting to act very weird lately, i'm not sure of what happen to her, but she start to become less chattable, seems to be very meanie on me during the phone, which makes me cant get what she wanted to ask, i tried to talk to her, but she doesnt seems to be interested anymore, compare to last time, we use to talk about future, babies, and how we enjoy our day always.

She also being very demanding to see me, where i actually told her that if we are going out too much each day, My petrol cost + food Cost + family Perception doesnt goes well, cause i'm still not earning big bucks to spend as i like, and she is not working permanantly also, she seems love to pick up something to fight with, like, trying the dress and ask me is she fat ? i say no, just the dress not look nice on her, she should try some much more simple design, more lovely for her age, den she say, tats means she is fat, get angry on me, giving me the looks, and makes me used 1 1/2 hour to make she smile back.

She also love to ask me, do i love her more or she love me more, she is hesitate to give everything cause worry to get hurt, cause bad experience last time, cause she wan a person who love her more den she love him. i tried and tried n tried, but really dunno how to let her see la, she even going to compare me and tell me, There is a guy who treat her better den i do, or there is some1 wat her more den i do, how to do huh ? everytime making call to her, its will goes to this topic, i dun 1 talk about this all la, she is very sensative on this part...

last time she use to be a very outgoing and willing to sacrafice girl, she can go to college to wait me, or even went out to see me, but now, she seems demand me to fetch her out always, or get her by car(i really wanted to let her think about my cost on petrol la....rm30 per trip from her home - eat - walk - shop - date - home - myself go home, every 2 - 3 times a week makes me blood also come out ler...)
if lidat, b4 end of mth i already pokai spending on her, while she complain tat do i keep money for future, she want ppl tat got eyes on future la, bla bla bla...aiyo....

to be with her, i already trying to change quite alot
From Social drinker to hate to drink,
from Early birds bcome hantu malam(cause she wan chat chat at 1am - 3am)
from rm30- phone bill per mth bcome rm100(even with value 50 also reach 100, and its within 10day of this mth)
from outgoing bcome cinderelli (back home b4 12, report sms each quarter of day, askin her eat liao, drink liao, shit liao or whatever liao each hour)
from pilates guru + top sales bcome macam ghost who work for finish early and get to find her when she wants me ....
from small buying power into hampir tak cukup makan for current mth...

how to do ah ? teach me please, if this continue hor, i cant imagine will we able to last long also, i'm trying hard to please her already ler, but she easily to get angry la, easily to offended,sensative and love to give me hard time(ask me to come, and if i tell her, i try, she will angry and say, nvm la, like she want me more den i want her, thats y she always ask do i love her more or she love me more.. T_T)
or maybe we are going too fast(thats not problem for me, but for her, i guess, overall she is my first gf, i sure already giving out everything i could)we are actually already reach the intimacy stage(dont need me to explain more on this rite ?) but problem actually start after we did it...so i guess...really dunno wat can i try n do already...

Thx for reading my trouble now ler....i hope can last long ler the relationship...

Regards,
Joshua/Yungsern

From ur post i can see only two things: shes very insecure and that she demand u to be responsible after u guys are doing it.She wants ur reassurance,I belive thats how her insecurities starts.
Give her time,Im sure she herself also feel headache too,she dunno wat she wants,
And heck,females is like that,PMS..
And I still know most girls still have that traditional thinking,wanting a partner that can commits after sleeping together.Its like a live or die situation for them,seems to me

[IcyWen 0]

Hi YungSern

I had read all ur post and can see that u r a nice bf
My situation is a bit similar to u as my bf stay in Sri Gombak while i stay in OUG, but he is studying and i am just graduated and looking for a job
Our financial status is limited. At 1st my bf thought all girls loves to go shopping, movies, etc etc....

But to me, I just hope he can accompany me more(well, i am a bit same like ur gf-sticky type of gf-haha...)1 week, we will meet each other min 3 days(same as ur case)
Of cuz, if just 1 party paying all the expenses is like taking a knife and slaughter his necks.....i noe everytime he come n find me, he need to spend a lot on petrol,food,and some activities sometimes(movies,etc) so i will automatically offer to pay for the meals sometimes or go find him myself sometimes. I think it is normal for both party to contribute and pay for the expenses.

Me and my bf had just celebrated our 3rd year anniversary as still sweet although we will argue sometimes but we will take all the things out to discuss and toleration really needed for 2 person to be together (nt oni husband and wife, but aso gf n bf)

I don't know why ur gf will feel insecure with u but maybe ur behavior or attitude make her feel so? Try to notice about ur behavior more...mayb u can gt some hint....

I also get hurt frm my ex before but i clearly understand my ex is my ex....my current bf is my current bf...is 2 different person....we shall not compare them cuz is unfair....

(p/s: my current bf cheated on me before, i had forgive him and sometimes i will lost confidence with him but he will reassure me by accompany me more and show me he care for me and love me)

Until now, both of us are still good and sweet as other newly couple moreover, we had been through a lot together......

All ur obstables will only make ur loves with her tighten and will more appreciate.....so dun worry....if u treat her with ur true heart, she will realize and know it......
All the best


Regards
Wendy

[YungSernLang 0]

Hi YungSern

I had read all ur post and can see that u r a nice bf
My situation is a bit similar to u as my bf stay in Sri Gombak while i stay in OUG, but he is studying and i am just graduated and looking for a job
Our financial status is limited. At 1st my bf thought all girls loves to go shopping, movies, etc etc....

But to me, I just hope he can accompany me more(well, i am a bit same like ur gf-sticky type of gf-haha...)1 week, we will meet each other min 3 days(same as ur case)
Of cuz, if just 1 party paying all the expenses is like taking a knife and slaughter his necks.....i noe everytime he come n find me, he need to spend a lot on petrol,food,and some activities sometimes(movies,etc) so i will automatically offer to pay for the meals sometimes or go find him myself sometimes. I think it is normal for both party to contribute and pay for the expenses.

Me and my bf had just celebrated our 3rd year anniversary as still sweet although we will argue sometimes but we will take all the things out to discuss and toleration really needed for 2 person to be together (nt oni husband and wife, but aso gf n bf)

I don't know why ur gf will feel insecure with u but maybe ur behavior or attitude make her feel so? Try to notice about ur behavior more...mayb u can gt some hint....

I also get hurt frm my ex before but i clearly understand my ex is my ex....my current bf is my current bf...is 2 different person....we shall not compare them cuz is unfair....

(p/s: my current bf cheated on me before, i had forgive him and sometimes i will lost confidence with him but he will reassure me by accompany me more and show me he care for me and love me)

Until now, both of us are still good and sweet as other newly couple moreover, we had been through a lot together......

All ur obstables will only make ur loves with her tighten and will more appreciate.....so dun worry....if u treat her with ur true heart, she will realize and know it......
All the best


Regards
Wendy

Hey Wendy, thx for sharing the experience u had, i'm actually very easygoing, but sometimes i required to plan on my time and money too, eventhough i;m working, i needed to check my current savings so i can have enough money to eat and enjoy as i could, but she seems to be abit sticky on me, wanted me to find her each time me or she free, first we say to meet each mon tue, and once a day in between sat and sunday(she have her meeting 4 amway at wed, interior design class at thu, and i must work noon to night at fri, sat sun we both work)

its just sometimes i felt she got a weather emotion, easily rain or sunny each hour, and asking me a very weird and hardly answer question, answer or not also die 1....but i still trying to give her as much i could, and hoping she will relize my burden, so she will slowly adept to me(she willing to travel during the earlier stage, but now, she start complain she is tanned, and want me to be on the house always whenever i am free....)

can u try tell me why she been acting like this, and roughly can i know abit what u all expect from a guy when u are so new in love, dont get enough secure-ness from the guy, suspecting the guy might not love you that much and what you want the guy to do to show you he is caring ?

i am new in this all, i dunno wat to do and show so she felt good and better(of couse we did abit intercourse, but that 1 seems far from what a relationship bond is, cause its sex, whoever also felt nice for it when in love..)

tq for replying okie ?

Regards,
Joshua/Yungsern

[Zech 0]

YungSern,

I'm gonna bring you to see things in logical way..

Now is the time for yourself to consider few things.. how much COMMITMENT you can give? How MUCH is the time & effort you could afford on this relationship? What are the things you FORGONE for the sake of this relationship?

Be it in relationship or anything else, we need to take a bit of time to reassess our progress and status only then we would know how good or bad is the situation, and is there a better way to manage things? The more commitment and effort both of u have contributed in this relationship, the higher the expectation would be expected from each other.

While at the same time you gotta put your effort in building up this relationship, always think on where's your POINT OF BALANCE in this relationship. You gotta remember your SOURCE that could keep you to sustain on this relationship, be it career, social circle, etc. You should not let them go too much until you lost your source of support, while at the same time can manage to keep the relationship going on.

Seek discusion with your gf. Ask for her understanding on the commitment you having now, and gave her the assurance that she always had your attention and that's why you working hard for the future of both you and her. Let her know what you could do to support her and on building up this relationship, and what you have to forgone because of the commitment. If she's willing to support you, suggest her the things she could do to be your support so that she would be confidence on what she does for you is something that really could help you or ease your burden to some extent.

Relationship requires MUTUAL understanding and supports to keep it going on strong!

Cheers!

[IcyWen 0]

Hey Wendy, thx for sharing the experience u had, i'm actually very easygoing, but sometimes i required to plan on my time and money too, eventhough i;m working, i needed to check my current savings so i can have enough money to eat and enjoy as i could, but she seems to be abit sticky on me, wanted me to find her each time me or she free, first we say to meet each mon tue, and once a day in between sat and sunday(she have her meeting 4 amway at wed, interior design class at thu, and i must work noon to night at fri, sat sun we both work)

its just sometimes i felt she got a weather emotion, easily rain or sunny each hour, and asking me a very weird and hardly answer question, answer or not also die 1....but i still trying to give her as much i could, and hoping she will relize my burden, so she will slowly adept to me(she willing to travel during the earlier stage, but now, she start complain she is tanned, and want me to be on the house always whenever i am free....)

can u try tell me why she been acting like this, and roughly can i know abit what u all expect from a guy when u are so new in love, dont get enough secure-ness from the guy, suspecting the guy might not love you that much and what you want the guy to do to show you he is caring ?

i am new in this all, i dunno wat to do and show so she felt good and better(of couse we did abit intercourse, but that 1 seems far from what a relationship bond is, cause its sex, whoever also felt nice for it when in love..)

tq for replying okie ?

Regards,
Joshua/Yungsern

If u talk about she feel insecure i think is because she hope she is the prettiest and the best in ur eyes, but she had very little confidence in herself(like u say she feel herself fat, bt in fact maybe she is nt.....she will gt moody and jealous when u stares at other girl maybe because she feel she is nt gd enuff tats y u look at other girls...she aso may think tat u r comparing her with the girl u stare at?) so wat u can do is gif her more confidence, nt by praising her appearance....bt tell her hw much u love her and let her noe her position in ur heart to decrease her thoughts of u comparing her wif others or she is nt gd enuff)

About wanting u at home when u are free maybe she worries that when u go out,u will cheated on her, or she worry u will drink, or she worry the ppl u mix with......so if can, i tink is gd that u bring her out a few times when u had outings with ur frenz...let her noe them and let her noe wat u usually do wif them or at outside......

About the travelling, i m sorry to say but she seems too rely on u?A bit "princess" frm my point of view....no offence ok.....but do u realize tat she had changed frm the girl u noe earlier?or m i too sensitive?cuz frm ur post, i feel like she had 2 personality,....again no offence.....the change in a person might because of pressure she facing, or because of problems she saw(jz like wat devildoll said, bcuz she had gif in to u, so she expect u to commit more)?another possibilities is, her real personality started to slowly shown up?I m nt trying to talk bad about her, just wanted to tell u tat, since u n her had jz been together for a short period of time rite? Sumtimes oni times can show u the real personality of a person. Just like many other couples, who dated for several years finally end up their relationship bcuz it took years for us to see the real him/her that whther they suit us or not.....



Regards

Wendy

[IcyWen 0]

oh...another trick...when she asked u whether she is fat or not...since u tell her she is not fat she dun believe rite?then u kiss her warmly and tenderly, then oni tell her,"no, u dun look fat at all"

I believe she had already melt by ur kiss and will less likely "merajuk" wif u

[YungSernLang 0]

If u talk about she feel insecure i think is because she hope she is the prettiest and the best in ur eyes, but she had very little confidence in herself(like u say she feel herself fat, bt in fact maybe she is nt.....she will gt moody and jealous when u stares at other girl maybe because she feel she is nt gd enuff tats y u look at other girls...she aso may think tat u r comparing her with the girl u stare at?) so wat u can do is gif her more confidence, nt by praising her appearance....bt tell her hw much u love her and let her noe her position in ur heart to decrease her thoughts of u comparing her wif others or she is nt gd enuff)
(the hardest part to show i guess, i'm loyal, i might seems to be a playboy but actually i'm not(my name kena spoit cuz too close with all girls)and i always tell her how much i thinkin of her, but so far i onli know how to show by giving her letters, emails, sms,and mouth to mouth, any extra idea perhaps ?)

About wanting u at home when u are free maybe she worries that when u go out,u will cheated on her, or she worry u will drink, or she worry the ppl u mix with......so if can, i tink is gd that u bring her out a few times when u had outings with ur frenz...let her noe them and let her noe wat u usually do wif them or at outside......
(i'm actually thinking to bring her to meet my parents, while introducing her to my friends and everybody, but somehow she is the 1 who hesitate to meet everyone due to she still worry tat ppl would inform her family/she is in a strict family where she cant get in relationship due to her study, but i'm too much for her till she cannt say no anymore, tats what she said)

About the travelling, i m sorry to say but she seems too rely on u?A bit "princess" frm my point of view....no offence ok.....but do u realize tat she had changed frm the girl u noe earlier?or m i too sensitive?cuz frm ur post, i feel like she had 2 personality,....again no offence.....the change in a person might because of pressure she facing, or because of problems she saw(jz like wat devildoll said, bcuz she had gif in to u, so she expect u to commit more)?another possibilities is, her real personality started to slowly shown up?I m nt trying to talk bad about her, just wanted to tell u tat, since u n her had jz been together for a short period of time rite? Sumtimes oni times can show u the real personality of a person. Just like many other couples, who dated for several years finally end up their relationship bcuz it took years for us to see the real him/her that whther they suit us or not.....
(i hope everything goes along well, i can accept changes of someone, but i just gotta see how much is her commitment toward me...)

[YungSernLang 0]

guys, i need some help again T_T

its the third time where she told me that there is guys interested on her, and she want me to take note, the first 2 i already told her to reject them added with try quit contact as they are those new friends or whatever, where i told her to be loyal to me, and dont compare me with other guys because i'm the 1 she choose, not them, why wanna bother about them tackling her. its her choices to choose and she choosen d, y bother rite ?

so this third time, she told me there is a collegue wanted to tackle her, while she wanna reject him by letting me call her, and make the guy give up cause she wanna show she got bf and very loving, i had already calling her 3 to 4 times today just to talk talk(first i tot its bcos she miss me, later she told me she wan me call to talk because of tat guy)after i take a short nap, i call her to check her condition, then she told me this all, and she seems to be angry cause i dun talk much, then i ma reply her sms with

"Dear, since u called me to tell you straight-forward rite ? so i dun wanna make it sound begging or whatever also, see, being inrelationship with you i already prepare to face all this problem, but wanting me to call u and make the guy give up just not the right way u see, its not always the best method to reject a person, and there is some better, straight-forward way to reject him, because by showing him or whatever might cause some different result.

since now we both are grown adults, dont you think this all is about commitment ?i tried to tell you everything i had in my life, and being faithful to you, and i trust when you say that you love me, i trust you already make up a commitment to being faithful to me also already.i tried to trust you, and making you to trust me and got confident that me arent a wrong choices."

end up now she dun answer my call already, i dont know either she is busy with the work or something else, i know my gf is those kind tat got Little Princess Attitude one(i send my car to service, and she work a some place i dunno how to go, but when dun1 meet today she say its my problem that we cant meet each other/ she say that she want private time to spend wif family and friends, but afterall she is the 1 keep on saying why you dont wan meet, i dont feel u love me more than me/ i had been giving her all my free time and even my sleeping time,money and etc, when i gotta make everything just suit to her time, she got amway meeting, got class, got workshop, got work all also i follow, even mytime to work also i ammend to suit her, somehow she seems to be complain more than i do......)

i dont wish to think of breakup or calm down session, but i wanna try make her understand me at least more than now,
if she dun start to have a much more open mind, its very hard to communicate in future...

Regards,
Joshua/Yungsern

[timothyngim 0]

guys, i need some help again T_T

its the third time where she told me that there is guys interested on her, and she want me to take note, the first 2 i already told her to reject them added with try quit contact as they are those new friends or whatever, where i told her to be loyal to me, and dont compare me with other guys because i'm the 1 she choose, not them, why wanna bother about them tackling her. its her choices to choose and she choosen d, y bother rite ?

so this third time, she told me there is a collegue wanted to tackle her, while she wanna reject him by letting me call her, and make the guy give up cause she wanna show she got bf and very loving, i had already calling her 3 to 4 times today just to talk talk(first i tot its bcos she miss me, later she told me she wan me call to talk because of tat guy)after i take a short nap, i call her to check her condition, then she told me this all, and she seems to be angry cause i dun talk much, then i ma reply her sms with

"Dear, since u called me to tell you straight-forward rite ? so i dun wanna make it sound begging or whatever also, see, being inrelationship with you i already prepare to face all this problem, but wanting me to call u and make the guy give up just not the right way u see, its not always the best method to reject a person, and there is some better, straight-forward way to reject him, because by showing him or whatever might cause some different result.

since now we both are grown adults, dont you think this all is about commitment ?i tried to tell you everything i had in my life, and being faithful to you, and i trust when you say that you love me, i trust you already make up a commitment to being faithful to me also already.i tried to trust you, and making you to trust me and got confident that me arent a wrong choices."

end up now she dun answer my call already, i dont know either she is busy with the work or something else, i know my gf is those kind tat got Little Princess Attitude one(i send my car to service, and she work a some place i dunno how to go, but when dun1 meet today she say its my problem that we cant meet each other/ she say that she want private time to spend wif family and friends, but afterall she is the 1 keep on saying why you dont wan meet, i dont feel u love me more than me/ i had been giving her all my free time and even my sleeping time,money and etc, when i gotta make everything just suit to her time, she got amway meeting, got class, got workshop, got work all also i follow, even mytime to work also i ammend to suit her, somehow she seems to be complain more than i do......)

i dont wish to think of breakup or calm down session, but i wanna try make her understand me at least more than now,
if she dun start to have a much more open mind, its very hard to communicate in future...

Regards,
Joshua/Yungsern

Lang, go buy a and assasinate the guy!!!! Or teach him some kinda pilates move that will tie him up/kill him

[YungSernLang 0]

Wish i can Use the pilates to roll him bcome fitness Ball.....
nvm la, somehow i can see her commitment toward me can d, but she is really posessive until i felt i get pressured by a lil princess

[mschocoholic 0]

Hi Joshua,

I've been reading your posts since the beginning felt really happy for you when you told us that you were in a relationship with the girl that you like.

I'm in a relationship too, with my 1st bf for almost 5 years (going to be this Sept, hehe) and i can say as time goes by, you'll get to know your gf more and more up to the stage that you can read her mind (like what's she thinking and stuff). Also, as time passes you will get to know the 'real' her and you might discover her pros and cons. I think communication is really important in a relationship cuz you'll get to know each other better and share your feelings.

I noticed from your posts that she's feeling insecured and sometimes become more demanding. In my opinion, maybe both of you should sit down and really talk about it, at least you can find some solutions on the issues that she's worrying about all this while.

[Zech 0]

Seek discusion with your gf. Ask for her understanding on the commitment you having now, and gave her the assurance that she always had your attention and that's why you working hard for the future of both you and her. Let her know what you could do to support her and on building up this relationship, and what you have to forgone because of the commitment. If she's willing to support you, suggest her the things she could do to be your support so that she would be confidence on what she does for you is something that really could help you or ease your burden to some extent.

Relationship requires MUTUAL understanding and supports to keep it going on strong!

In my opinion, maybe both of you should sit down and really talk about it, at least you can find some solutions on the issues that she's worrying about all this while.

I'm in da camp for OPEN HEART TO HEART DISCUSSION. Go for it!

[d3vil doll 0]

illkid kalau bo syok can STFU and get lost, u spoil ppl mood here to share the happiness.
if i close wif dollie sure call her delete all your sick message in all over forum....

guys, i need some help again T_T

its the third time where she told me that there is guys interested on her, and she want me to take note, the first 2 i already told her to reject them added with try quit contact as they are those new friends or whatever, where i told her to be loyal to me, and dont compare me with other guys because i'm the 1 she choose, not them, why wanna bother about them tackling her. its her choices to choose and she choosen d, y bother rite ?

so this third time, she told me there is a collegue wanted to tackle her, while she wanna reject him by letting me call her, and make the guy give up cause she wanna show she got bf and very loving, i had already calling her 3 to 4 times today just to talk talk(first i tot its bcos she miss me, later she told me she wan me call to talk because of tat guy)after i take a short nap, i call her to check her condition, then she told me this all, and she seems to be angry cause i dun talk much, then i ma reply her sms with

"Dear, since u called me to tell you straight-forward rite ? so i dun wanna make it sound begging or whatever also, see, being inrelationship with you i already prepare to face all this problem, but wanting me to call u and make the guy give up just not the right way u see, its not always the best method to reject a person, and there is some better, straight-forward way to reject him, because by showing him or whatever might cause some different result.

since now we both are grown adults, dont you think this all is about commitment ?i tried to tell you everything i had in my life, and being faithful to you, and i trust when you say that you love me, i trust you already make up a commitment to being faithful to me also already.i tried to trust you, and making you to trust me and got confident that me arent a wrong choices."

end up now she dun answer my call already, i dont know either she is busy with the work or something else, i know my gf is those kind tat got Little Princess Attitude one(i send my car to service, and she work a some place i dunno how to go, but when dun1 meet today she say its my problem that we cant meet each other/ she say that she want private time to spend wif family and friends, but afterall she is the 1 keep on saying why you dont wan meet, i dont feel u love me more than me/ i had been giving her all my free time and even my sleeping time,money and etc, when i gotta make everything just suit to her time, she got amway meeting, got class, got workshop, got work all also i follow, even mytime to work also i ammend to suit her, somehow she seems to be complain more than i do......)

i dont wish to think of breakup or calm down session, but i wanna try make her understand me at least more than now,
if she dun start to have a much more open mind, its very hard to communicate in future...

Regards,
Joshua/Yungsern

Josh,do u see the REPORT functions below each post inreply to ur topics?
In future,if u feel that u somehow has been harrassed/insulted by any member,just click on the report function and all the moderators will be aware and keep a close eye on the thread.Rest assure,we may remove a post if it deems offensive/not relavant to the topic discussed.

Based on some of the issue I highlight in red,ur gf is trying to start a bidding war..I say so because shes using this reason to test u.She probably wants to see ur reaction,wat u will do when u know some other guys are trying hard to woo her.

Well,princess type of gal needs to be handled carefully.In doing so,think 2 steps or even 3 steps ahead of her.Predict and observe her reaction each time.That should help u.
And becareful with the princess type cos they always use the princess issue to manipulate their bf,yes,i mean MANIPULATE THEIR LOVED ONES.

And based on the feedbacks and message from her ,it seems to me she just dont get enough of ur attention.So to me,it seems shes doing all this to divert ur attention to her,and her alone.This explain her princessy attitude as well to some extent

[timothyngim 0]

Wish i can Use the pilates to roll him bcome fitness Ball.....
nvm la, somehow i can see her commitment toward me can d, but she is really posessive until i felt i get pressured by a lil princess

... u a pilates instructor rite?? Come, we 2gether roll him......

[YungSernLang 0]

guys n gals, here goes my problem again(been looking here for solution every minutes, wondering y so many problem, thats y they say u gotta pass 77777777problem for 1 marriage)

Today was the premier of the first day transformer show, where i was struggling so hard to please her, never piss her off ytd night so we can have a
nice day today, and there goes, this morning, when morning she suddenly called me and say, miss me, and we have a short chit chat, then she suddenly
come out with her princess mood again, trying to stir up some trouble, but somehow i able to vanish the fire. and everything goes well until i take my
shower in club, dress-up and drive to her college to find her.

She dont pick my call from 11am to 4pm, i reach her college at 3, our meet-up time, but end up she makes me wait until 4.15pm, while she say plenty of
reason like her lecturer bla bla bla, and whatever related y she is late, and she say i'm look angry, cause waited so long(so she can treat me like dun 1 choi
me cause i am angry ? and scare i scold la, complain la and whatever ?) and yet, she walk all herself till my car, then we went to 1Utama.

at there, we line up, exchange my voucher for the transformer movie, watched it an the movie is nice, then we go to BBQ plaza to makan, everything is
going well until we went back home, on the way, she talk about her teacher again, so i told her, Dear, as a student, lets take ourself abit responsibility to
attend the class even you attend it b4 d, and dont depend on teacher too much, she is busy, and cant really care u, u must take initiative yourself...
so end up she is unhappy cause my word is saying she is not good la, whatever la(why lidat ?)

then at her condo nearby parking, we cover the windows with the sun-blinder, and the front glass with a metallic 1, so nobody can see through from front, n the side
is very blur, so we have our kissing, and hugging session there for 20mins, until suddenly a guy pass and looking on our car, so she says, shit got ppl look inside, see
now ppl know we are in car doing thing d, and call me quick quick drive away cause scare the ppl complain....

her question to me that time is:
-is that a malay guy ?
-do he saw wat we are doing ?
-will he complain to the guards ?
-how if its come until my family ?
why you dont get those full cover 1 ?

so i told her, dont bother about other ppl, cause the pass only, see the car also hardly get clear pics lo, summore why wan bother ? they pass only, what
possiblility of complain cause got ppl in car hugging ?what is the malay problem here ? and what the heck u worry about those passby ? its our own personal
stuff in car rite ? not their matter as long they dun come to car window and stare rite ?

then she say, dont i think about her, dont i know tat girl name might get ruined by this thing all, she might get complained as whore, later if i dun 1 her,
nobody want her anymore, and all sort of reasons, and while we are driving to other place after dat, she actually so tense, and end up raising her voices
on me, when i ask need turn ? she say go straight!!!!!, i say now ? she say u turn,i called her , calm down!, then she show me attitude already, wan go home la,
dun 1 tok la, whatever la, and take down the mirror and comb her hair, then i ma stop aside, close back the mirror(abit rough)and ask her why she behave lidat ?

then she started to cry and say want go home(say me look like wan hit her and show my temper wor...)i lidat abit also wan cry, i already tahan and giving out
such patience and she still wanna treat me lidat, really almost over my limit of patience leh....then when reach home, she say i lost temper la, wan hit her la,
no confident on me la, haih....mafan, y u girls always think sama sama 1 jenis 1 ?

just now sms, she say me what also blame her, what also her fault, its her problem, and say she dun give me everything, so i was unsatisfied today(woh, i was so
control myself and never stimulate her g-spot, or even fondle her bxxxt, still wan say i dun satisfied ?)really cannot keng already, told her, dont let 1 ppl ruin our
nice day, we gotta understand each other, not by angry like that, dont tell me those, i dun 1 talk to u anymore, i hate u, its all my fault, nvm, or even cool down few day,
its my problem, u are not wrong....

lidat also can meh ? i told her understanding, she vent out what she dun like how i think, i also tell her, but y i can accept and understand her worries while she cant ?
summore say i no need call her, she wont pick up, wan cool down, dun 1 talk already, feel insecure d, all this reason suddenly come out....i really no idea how to
do already la....

feeling wanna give up already, but i will still try to maintain the relationship la, somehow felt after today, what else can happen in next outing ?
no more everything, she dun 1 to see my parents, and she scare to let her parent know about us, she also always unhappy if i told her i cant come or busy,
and she are the 1 always say, nvm la dun come la,after calling u to come find her(if i dun 1 find her, y say yes at first place rite ? if she wan sell herself lidat ah,
i dont feel its worth lo, its been like i;m giving and she is taking everything for granted....)

should i start voicing out and see how she accept it ? can i felt she dun attempt to my needs also,
she actually wasted my time alot,(sure late at least 1 hour to 3 hour each time we make up a time to go out or go somewhere)
my financial cost raised(rm20 per day trip if find her, might happen 3 times each week, eat at least rm15++, while phone bill cost me rm300, imagine, from 1mth rm30 prepaid also cannot finish use become rm300 not enuf, wtf is this ?)
my commitment to company decrease, i was letting my job easier cause i felt no use to help company do work die die, not getting appreciated also.but with her, i tend to let got my company more, and dun 1 bother of caring it too much.
my sleeping time, usually 12am sleep, bcos her, each day 3am sleep, 6am wake, onli once a while can sleep till 8am, cause ? gotta wake her up sure at 8 or 9 der each day....imagine becoming a bf until lidat, i do something wrong isit ?
my friends, my family, all started to say me got gf, neglect them already....oh gosh, she also got same problem, but somehow i consider her time onli make up my time, still not enuf ?

i dun 1 to give-up la, anyway she is my first, of course i wan it to become long term, plus haven 1 mth leh....help me plz...

Regards,
Joshua(confused, depressed n Feeling Helpless...)

[mschocoholic 0]

Hi Joshua,

From your post, you're saying that she dun wan to let her parents know that she's in a relationship? Meaning that her parents wouldnt let her have a bf when she's studying? If that's the case, then it's going to be a bit difficult for her because she maybe living in lies (as in 'pak tor' with you without her parents' consent). If you look from her position, she may be stucked between you and her parents and because of that situation, she doesnt know what she wants. So, maybe that's where her frustration come from and she let it out on you.

I can say to be stuck in a relationship like this is difficult cuz both parties (you and her) will suffer. I think if 2 ppl really want to be together, they'll try their best to work it out no matter what kind of obstacles they face or may face later. Maybe you should talk to her on what she wants from this relationship because there is no point where both of you keep having dissatisfaction from this relationship which going make you both unhappy.