cossie

[cossie 0]

Whoohoo...seems like I'm a fit left out here.....

what do you mean you're left out?

[@Li3N 0]

Dunno wht u guys r talking about...esp those kakilang....hehe

[cossie 0]

Dunno wht u guys r talking about...esp those kakilang....hehe

this is where you can find kakilang: http://www.kakilang.com/potatoship

it is an online community of friends. cely is one of the moderators. she is known to some as the queen of kakilang. i know her as someone to be admired for her strength and patience; i do not compliment people much.

mr goh is also a member there.

the community has characters from the extremes of nice fellars and those who have little social graces. i use the site as a form of personal web site, so i post all sorts of things there as i am starting to do here.

i'm sure cely will be absolutely glad if you join that community. i just wish to tell you in advance that it can get rough unless you keep a low profile.

the background here is pink, over there it is blue. you get the picture?

[shadowprincess 0]

too much make up is when you look like a chinese opera actress

soap opera actress memang toooo much make-up liao

[elle 0]

aiks wat soap opera?:|

[shadowprincess 0]

oh the chinese opera...write wrong liao

[elle 0]

oops i think i shouldnt be participating here coz i hv no idea wha's going on

[GeniE 0]

mmm.... ya lor... this place is like an extended kakilang community i suddenly feel intruded

so many of them here... i scAred *shIver* :

[Chiii 0]

cossie -- wow... seems like kakilang is more hardcore than the forum here huh? i have been to some hardcore forums before and they are shooting at each other.. anyway... one forum is enuff to keep me busy... maybe i should go in and have a look...

[shadowprincess 0]

he he...me not from kakilang, genie....we non-kakilang team up in non-kakilang lor...he he just joking....if i got anything to say then i just post only ...he he

[GeniE 0]

Dun wan ~~~ they all keep quiet over here except cossie and cely.. i don't want to talk there, later kena bully

[cossie 0]

cossie -- wow... seems like kakilang is more hardcore than the forum here huh? maybe i should go in and have a look...

it's a great community and it's been around for some time. first member, dec 2002.

i surfed the area from april 2003 and later in august due to incessant demand from jason.

it's not hardcore, but you have to be careful. from my informal survey, this is the breakdown of members:

Registered Users: 1951

Total response to poll: 44 (2% of all registered accounts)

79.5% males

20.5% females

M: 16 - 19 9% [ 4 ]

M: 20 - 24 43% [ 19 ]

M: 25 - 29 27% [ 12 ]

F: 16 - 19 2% [ 1 ]

F: 20 - 24 9% [ 4 ]

F: 25 - 29 6% [ 3 ]

F: 30 and over 2% [ 1 ]

this poll was hardly accurate. the explanation can be found from this topic in the forum.

come join us!

[@Li3N 0]

mmm.... ya lor... this place is like an extended kakilang community i suddenly feel intruded

so many of them here... i scAred *shIver* :

HAhahaha/.....u r not alone...me too...shivering here....scared!

[Chiii 0]

cossie -- wow.. more guys than gals huh? will go and have a look and see wat kinda topic do u guys talk abt.

[cossie 0]

HAhahaha/.....u r not alone...me too...shivering here....scared!

aiyo... scared of what? besides... don't you like guys? hmm?

[@Li3N 0]

aiyo... scared of what? besides... don't you like guys? hmm?

Wht if I said tht I dun...LOL....Nah juz kidding...

[cossie 0]

Wht if I said tht I dun...LOL....Nah juz kidding...

well... i guess that's starting to sound pretty acceptable as well. my older sister has already proclaimed herself a spinster. hmm... what can guys do for girls anyway? i think some realize they are so useless that they even overdo by trying to make themself feel needed. losers!

[cossie 0]

hehehe... i uploaded my avatar from kakilang

[snowball 0]

HAhahaha/.....u r not alone...me too...shivering here....scared!

Not that serious lah, but i think we shouldn't compare here and the other community, we should have our own way, a babe way. I hope admins can do their job by creating a correct culture here.

I've been to other community before, just a surfer, but i found that ppl there are very rude, so never borther to sign up. I put my faith here, so hope i wont be disappointed.

[elle 0]

to shilvering members: i join da club ahahhaha

[cossie 0]

i join da club

so what nick you use there?

[Chiii 0]

snowball -- yeah... we should have our own pink babe way!!

[cossie 0]

now... this is what a guy picking up a girl is like.

Note:

1. cossie is not a girl;

2. cossie is older than iamkl and does not wish to be with little boys;

3. cossie is just here to have fun with his other kakilang members who have joined this site;

4. please only PM cossie for serious discussions; i have three jobs and will get annoyed if my time is wasted by nonsensical business.

thank you and have a nice day!

Hi!

How are you....Nice to meet u..

Well, I would like to tell a bit about me. I'm sekhar, work as software engineer in KL. I'm 26 yrs, male, my height 5 feet 11 inch(182 cm), 72 kgs.

I live in KL . I usually meet friends in weekends........sometimes we go out for dining......i take indian,chinies,westren foods.............sometimes i stay at home and watching moves...........

I'm open minded and like to discuss any thing....... You can send emails to iaminkl@yahoo.com, my yahoo messenger id: iaminkl

ok then

[cossie 0]

'Just Friends'

by Bruno

This piece is all about one of life’s little dilemma. The old “Let’s just be friends” scenario. Yeah guess many of you have been there (especially the men) but this time around I think (speaking on behalf of all the male population) I would like to give my two cents worth of this…

Okay let’s start from the beginning (to save you all from the agonizing detail, I will summarize this part). Met this girl, dated a few times, went out clubbing on numerous occasions – thing was quite happening. Seeing which at this point I began to drop little hint on the romantic angle of our so far platonic relationship (some who know me would argue that wasn’t a hint but a 10 terra byte information deluge which is not the issue here. We will discuss that later). Okay, like the typical story of my life, she gave the Section 3 Maneuver of the “Gurl’s Survival” Rule Book (YES it does exist to cause utter confusion and dismay for men) which is the million dollar answer to my romantic advances: “I think it would be best if we remained “just friends”. Whoa!

For the not so familiar, the Section 3 Maneuver has many variant that serve to confuse your male circuits. “You are like a brother to me”, “ I like you – as my buddy” et cetera. All of them are bona fide Section 3 Maneuver. But for the purpose of not causing more confusion, we shall remain focused on the “Just Friend” variant.

So, there I was totally stunned for the next 3 days pacing around feeling pretty s**ty about the whole thing. The thought that you have been awarded the CONSOLATION PRIZE really bothered me especially when you thought that you were the only one in the race. Anyway, after 250 cans of beer – leftovers from my really pretty “Just Friend” birthday bash – I came around to finally analyze and nail the whole “Just Friend” syndrome. At best, it’s an honest plea to get lost. And at worse, it sends the message that you are not sexually pleasing enough ( which has something to do with the female genetics to propagate the human species. Something which we will discuss later…)

Firstly, let’s start with the word “FRIEND”. A person you deemed as a friend is someone you "cherish". True friends are the ones who genuinely have your best interest at heart. It is a gift that one person gives to another without any ulterior motives whatsoever. It is not given to someone who annoys you, makes you feel guilty and does not genuinely have your best interest at heart – like your boss. These people should be labeled as acquaintances instead. But a true measure of a friend is earned. It is an honor and I sincerely believe in that. The number of people that can be consider my real friends can often be counted on both my hands.

Having established that, I would like to add that I have shared with many female “friends” things such as mutual regards, kindness, support and honest interest in the well being of the each other. It is a mutual feeling of warmth and honesty WITHOUT any romantic agenda that makes it special – much special than my guy friends. Sometimes even more so as I often wish some of my romantic involvement also include these enriching qualities, which is shared between my female “Friends”. Don’t get me wrong here, most of my just female “friends” are drop dead adorable but there are OTHER reasons that these women and I would not get along in a romantic sense. Reasons OTHER than the fact that I wasn't "their type" at the time such questions were on the table and sometimes they didn't even need to be asked. We just cliqued as friends and remained so.

Coming back to that so typical scenario, we will see a Guy hits on girl. Girl gives sly smile and do a typical Section 3 on guy. Guy gets upset and is expected to accepts Girl’s offer of being “Just Friends”. It is here that I would beg to differ.

That’s because I have come to realize is how inappropriate it is for the girl to offer “Just Friendship”. Because this will equate to giving the guy some sort of replacement. A CONSOLATION PRIZE. (Girls always say that they don’t want to hurt your feelings but we shall debate on it later). Dude, that ain’t no way to go….

To make matters worse, it seems everyone fail to understand the underlining agenda that when a guy hits on girl, he may have no interest in such a "just friendship” with her. If a guy wants to be “Just Friends” he would have done so from the beginning. Therefore it is presumptuous in the extreme for the girl to assume that boy wishes to be her "just friend” and try her best to convince the boy to accept it. Frankly, such is NOT her offer to make. She was offered and turned down, the option of "romantic involvement" and not "friendship". And a "just friendship” should not be looked at as any sort of "consolation prize". It should be honored and cherished as another of life's wonders. Thus, I think the offer of "just friendship" should come from the one who is not offering such in consolation prize, i.e. boy. And from today onwards, my liberated way of thinking is that such an arrangement/rule is simply good manners, a good way of saving of "face" and some common sense.

However if the boy wishes to offer friendship instead, both parties must have mutual understanding and respect for each other without any emotional issue overhanging the relationship. Only then could the boy offer his hand in “just friendship” mode. But on the other hand, if there are emotional issues present on either party (like the feeling of beating the crap out of the girl’s new boyfriend MOFO when the boy sees them together…) then the prospect of being “just friends” would never be workable. Ever.

And what does that all mean, people?

Firstly, the party who announces that no romance is in the cards, must wait for the OTHER party to extend their hand in "just friendship”. Friendship is not a consolation prize. It is an honor. Secondly, "just friendship" means MUTUAL acknowledgment of a non-workable romance. And mutual means that it goes both ways. THIS everyone has to accept it.

And as for me, seeing how things stand at this very moment, I think being “just friends” with my romantic interest is totally unacceptable and I would accept nothing less. And to think of it, both of us would probably NOT end up as friends – which would be sad. But as any prize worth fighting for, then it should be worth it. The game has come to a “all or nothing at all” situation…

*sigh* Oh well, time for another beer…. Cheers!

Note: At the time of writing, the author has consumed vast amount of alcohol so if his writings seems to be a ravings of a mad man then it might just probably so. If however, one finds the work genius in this writings then… errrr… good for you! The author also wish to inform the reader that all characters contained in this article is purely fictitious and any resemblance to anyone living or DEAD is purely coincidental. Also, if anyone would like to accuse the author of being a “sour grape” could do so over some beer with the author on his/her expense.

[cossie 0]

i finally obtained the writer's permission to share his article. hope you guys like blade's article. it was left unedited to retain the full-flavour.