luvlade 0 Report post Posted August 13, 2006 soft guys turn me off. if they are mentally soft like luvlade said, then that's good for me. I don't like when a guy makes me decide where to have dinner or what to watch for movies. i would like them to decide, and i will just be the submissive oneyeah, i hate it when he makes me do all the decision where to eat! what movie to watch! ARGH... i can eat anywhere i can watch anything!!! just make the godd*mn decision hahaha! well, sometimes i gotta give in too u know Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pinkybabe 0 Report post Posted August 13, 2006 yeah, i hate it when he makes me do all the decision where to eat! what movie to watch! ARGH... i can eat anywhere i can watch anything!!! just make the godd*mn decision hahaha! well, sometimes i gotta give in too u know You nailed it! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cändy[tong-tong] 0 Report post Posted August 13, 2006 Mixture the best haha..~But bare in mind some time if the man keep on making some decision where the ladies will stand on later after they married???Is much more better if there is a balance...Hehe...Well as I post before mixture does not give a stable sign in relation haha... is from my own experienxe..well...Maybe just both of us not in the same track and maybe he think off I always tolerate with him too much..!But hey! I'm not tolerate with him all the time.. maybe he is too sensitive..BUT all I want will go for those soft(not those waving hand type, is those will put down their ego when together with you only ) type and mixture... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lordy 0 Report post Posted August 13, 2006 u ? the lordy that I know ? *cough*cough*cough* the sky seems to be falling.... or hmm hey ! I saw a pig just flew across me ! oOOooooolala....careful dear.. u dowan to be spreading those bird flu germs around do u? =plordy - wat is sm type? haha new version ar? or is it soft and macho same timei think that soft guys are better lo cos they r more caring towards their gals...if have those very macho guy they always exert their manliness towards us gals...we will have no say then!but anyone has experience having a hand waving type/pondan boyfriend? do share experience with us on how is it...if a guy is childish like he acts like a small boy, is that consider soft as well? hmmm icic, so basically ur frame of reference is actually the extreme side of softness and also toughness lor.. This i understand and certainly agree, too tough and macho isnt good. Cos u ended up being controlled or worst, losing ur own fun in lifeSo to me, the best is still mixture la. A mix of softness when needed, and toughness when required. btw.. if soft guys r better cos they more caring ..err... u really want a sister that bad meh? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jessie2 0 Report post Posted August 13, 2006 careful dear.. u dowan to be spreading those bird flu germs around do u? =picic, so basically ur frame of reference is actually the extreme side of softness and also toughness lor.. This i understand and certainly agree, too tough and macho isnt good. Cos u ended up being controlled or worst, losing ur own fun in lifeSo to me, the best is still mixture la. A mix of softness when needed, and toughness when required. btw.. if soft guys r better cos they more caring ..err... u really want a sister that bad meh? of cos notla!!! i dont want a sister to be my boyfriend...haha but wat i am saying is that i prefer a boyfriend who is soft (not the hand waving type!!!) hahaalso yeah must be tough also in making decision is all the characteristic that u said juz now earlier when u post up which is a mixture of both....so final choice is still mixture of soft and tough in making decision...btw, i dont want a sister to be my boyfriend haha my life would be ruined keke...but lordy is not hand waving type 1 rite? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lordy 0 Report post Posted August 13, 2006 (edited) me the soft soft type lor... gentle gentle... voice oso soft soft... walk oso soft soft...wave hands ler.. hmm depends lor... sometimes i wave, sometimes i dun lor... u wanna learn how to wave hand? Edited August 13, 2006 by lordy Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Azxel 0 Report post Posted August 14, 2006 *sigh* There's really no pleasing everyone now is there?Soft outside cannot, soft inside can, soft down there cannot, soft up there can and the list goes on... but on the other hand, I'm sure a lot of you prefer these 'soft' guys to be your pals, right? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tEddysWinkLe 0 Report post Posted August 14, 2006 *sigh* There's really no pleasing everyone now is there?Soft outside cannot, soft inside can, soft down there cannot, soft up there can and the list goes on... but on the other hand, I'm sure a lot of you prefer these 'soft' guys to be your pals, right?ur rite... i think i would prefer these 'soft' guys as 'zhi mui'... well, the world is not perfect so why be perfect to please everyone? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lordy 0 Report post Posted August 14, 2006 yaler, be who ur is more important than what ur expected to be. I stopped pleasing ppl loooong long ago Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kimmie 0 Report post Posted August 14, 2006 my ex is a soft type i guess....very paitent understand and watever type of person which his former boss called him sotong..no back bone...and when we did a preformance using sign language for a song; he was even more GRACEFUL than me!i pai seh that type aiyoh malu bf has to teach me how to do it most gracefully Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JINEIL2EN 0 Report post Posted August 14, 2006 er.......is tht consider as soft if talking not loud as other guys...??? i mean the way they talking is very "soft" tooo...???movement very slow & very gentle 1 is soft too...??????? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lordy 0 Report post Posted August 14, 2006 i think depends on the category and defination ler. Softness/toughness can be ranked from 1 to 5. So level 1 softness will be pondan type, and 5 the one near to middle macho type lor.. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jessie2 0 Report post Posted August 14, 2006 my ex is a soft type i guess....very paitent understand and watever type of person which his former boss called him sotong..no back bone...and when we did a preformance using sign language for a song; he was even more GRACEFUL than me!i pai seh that type aiyoh malu bf has to teach me how to do it most gracefullyisnt that good? patient understanding...but how come u break up with him? not cos he is soft rite? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jessie2 0 Report post Posted August 14, 2006 me the soft soft type lor... gentle gentle... voice oso soft soft... walk oso soft soft...wave hands ler.. hmm depends lor... sometimes i wave, sometimes i dun lor... u wanna learn how to wave hand? waaa...u can control when u wanna wave 1??? so keng....can learn how to wave hands meh? u go for lesson is it? but i think as long as not 100% pondan can dy lai think lordy is not that kind of person lo... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
skye 0 Report post Posted August 14, 2006 careful dear.. u dowan to be spreading those bird flu germs around do u? =pif its bird flu u will be the 1st to get it "soft guy" more vitamins for u LOL . Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
yin 0 Report post Posted August 14, 2006 "soft" guys are fine as long as they are not too dependent on their gf..haha...i know some frens of mine won't take the first step with his gf one..like holding hands etc.. then his gf wait n wait until impatient then have to act first.. hehe.. is this counted as "soft" too? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lordy 0 Report post Posted August 14, 2006 (edited) if not taking the attempt to hold hands does not neccesary mean softness la.. It could mean he is inexperience, unsure, shy or just too blur to do it Edited August 14, 2006 by lordy Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
coldflame 0 Report post Posted August 14, 2006 But nowdays hardly find those guys are SOFT.....mostly those are very high ego and want to act macho...haih.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
eliza 0 Report post Posted August 15, 2006 Some soft guy also miang tak? I mean let say they oredy have gf/wife, but they still have interest with other girl? I also dun understand if we have a bf like this soft guy type, will they are kind of sincere type ker, and can betray to their partner ker, or what ah? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lordy 0 Report post Posted August 15, 2006 err.. i think irregardless whether a person is soft or not, he still can be hamsap. It doesnt mean that just bcos a person is the soft type, he wont be hamsap. Look at gay ppl, some of them are soft and they are HAMSAP too... Whether a person have at another girl (even if they have gf) will depend on their will power and also principle la. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kimmie 0 Report post Posted August 15, 2006 isnt that good? patient understanding...but how come u break up with him? not cos he is soft rite?2 things ...cause he is so soft that decision so hard to make...my mom adviced him continue his studies for the better of our future but he prefer to continue his dead end job only halfway he quit and continue his studies..2nd ...too soft very into emotion side...many gals like and even gays!!!!! so thats my headache...even if the gal knows that im his gf she still persue and he himself so soft he dont want make a stand say "NO!"(BIG NO) not to disturb us.. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kimmie 0 Report post Posted August 15, 2006 err.. i think irregardless whether a person is soft or not, he still can be hamsap. It doesnt mean that just bcos a person is the soft type, he wont be hamsap. Look at gay ppl, some of them are soft and they are HAMSAP too... Whether a person have at another girl (even if they have gf) will depend on their will power and also principle la. ahem agree lordy.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ImL3s 0 Report post Posted August 16, 2006 soft? wat kind of soft do u mean? those sotong n sissy kinda guy ah?ooh. pls.. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JINEIL2EN 0 Report post Posted August 16, 2006 soft? wat kind of soft do u mean? those sotong n sissy kinda guy ah?ooh. pls..wats wrong w/ tht...?? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ImL3s 0 Report post Posted August 16, 2006 i have a colleague which he is really a very very soft type..after knowing him a lil bit more.. he is actually a BI /swtand.... he can kiss any girl... or any guy...but... goin out with him just like goin out wth a sister.. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites