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adoi Carin ... it's jez a sign of his boredom ... but he still loves u ... but dunno la .. i'm not a master in this love subject ...

u think so?

i ask him he will go excited/ turn on when french kissing with me.. he canot no... :shocking:

is it normal for guys to go excited/turn on when french kissing with their love ones? :unsure:

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not in my case...my bf knows im a bad kisser also so its 3% might be turn on lol

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u think so?

i ask him he will go excited/ turn on when french kissing with me.. he canot no... :shocking:

is it normal for guys to go excited/turn on when french kissing with their love ones? :unsure:

Yes, it is normal for a guy..and even a girl to be turned on when french kissing their loved one. In fact no love also can be turned on.

The way I see it, altho I am also not a love expert neither am I a sexpert (sex+expert), is that there are a few reasons people get together:-

1) Physical attraction

2) Compatibility = same likes, interests etc.

3) Family reasons (match-make etc)

In your case, what are the reasons why you and him are still together? I cannot see any of the above. There is no No 3 cos you never mentioned. No 1 is the problem we are all discussing here, and No 2...well from what it sounds like you are a completely different person from him Carin. You are kind, compassionate, loving, conscientious..etc. He on the other hand is harsh, rude, crude, selfish etc. SO why are you still with him?

On another note, I explained your situation to my bf who came up with a thought. He said, maybe JUST maybe we are all overlooking a very obvious point. What if you there is something wrong with you, Carin? My bf asked whether you were fat, unattractive and perhaps even have body odour!!!! :shocking::X Now I don't mean to be rude and neither does my bf, but he pointed out that we are only hearing things from your perspective and there must be some logical reason why a man..any man for that matter will refuse sex and be like yr bf. So he asked what do we know about you? I told him I would ask... so I'm asking. I hope this doesn't offend you. 8)

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u think so?

i ask him he will go excited/ turn on when french kissing with me.. he canot no... :shocking:

is it normal for guys to go excited/turn on when french kissing with their love ones? :unsure:

hmm...i think it's true law. how can you not turn on by your gf/bf? my bf wil get turned on when he's kissing me & so do i....

as for what kittylovecatin says, maybe there's a prob with you? no offense though, but if there's any hidden agenda, it's better to say it out cause it'll be easier for us to give opinions.

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as i said in previous post~ YES, man would turn on if his love one/the one he love the most(gf or wife) kiss him deeply~ *blush*

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Kissing is only one of the aspects of love. There are many, many other ways of turning each other on. Some work for some people and some just don't turn on in any way.

Blowing in each other's ears was at one time considered sexy. But many Asians can't stand this because it's GELI.

Talking dirty turns some on. It turns others completely OFF.

For me, SMELL is a big turn on. Whether bad or not (ok if it's really nasty, even I can't stand it). I just love the smell of something/someone I love. I like the smell of my parents (parental love), my dog (sibling love), my best friends (friendship) and my girlfriend. You and your BF have got to find that special something that turns both of you on.

Honestly? The best part about true love is that you can just snuggle up next to your significant other and not do anything, and that in itself can be considered sexy. Just feeling each others body warmth (not on one of our legendary HOT days) can send each other to new heights.

Sounds like your "boyfriend" is just using you as a trophy girl. If I had a girlfriend who wanted to give me sex, I'd do it so much, I'll need a wheelchair.

Men who don't want sex from their girlfriends (except those who object to sex before marriage, which doesn't apply to your BF because he watches porn and wanks in front of you no less) are seriously missing a few fries from their happy meal, ie They are not right in the head.

If you have a girlfriend, it means you love her. If you love her and she needs to be satisfied sexually and you'd rather watch the evening news (not literally) then you ought to be castrated.

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Yes, it is normal for a guy..and even a girl to be turned on when french kissing their loved one. In fact no love also can be turned on.

The way I see it, altho I am also not a love expert neither am I a sexpert (sex+expert), is that there are a few reasons people get together:-

1) Physical attraction

2) Compatibility = same likes, interests etc.

3) Family reasons (match-make etc)

In your case, what are the reasons why you and him are still together? I cannot see any of the above. There is no No 3 cos you never mentioned. No 1 is the problem we are all discussing here, and No 2...well from what it sounds like you are a completely different person from him Carin. You are kind, compassionate, loving, conscientious..etc. He on the other hand is harsh, rude, crude, selfish etc. SO why are you still with him?

On another note, I explained your situation to my bf who came up with a thought. He said, maybe JUST maybe we are all overlooking a very obvious point. What if you there is something wrong with you, Carin? My bf asked whether you were fat, unattractive and perhaps even have body odour!!!! :shocking::X Now I don't mean to be rude and neither does my bf, but he pointed out that we are only hearing things from your perspective and there must be some logical reason why a man..any man for that matter will refuse sex and be like yr bf. So he asked what do we know about you? I told him I would ask... so I'm asking. I hope this doesn't offend you. 8)

hi, my bf and myself has the same interest. we love to keep fishes,pc etc. hehe..we do enjoy going to aquariums shop (at least once a week)..so we have the compatibility! :lol1: our parents like us. they treat us real nice..they treat us a bit like their own kids. :P so im really appreciate that. i love my bf's body odour.. haha...

now, im upset why im always the one who ask for x. :( anyway, i feel very tired about this and i don't want to ask about it any more( 1 yr plus d.. nvr cum in my life, all the while im the one who ask for it- mayb i hv strong neeeds.. am i? ). just let it be lo. but frankly, i can get turned on easily that's why im very co-operative. :D

u and ur bf got a good point there. we have to see things in a every angle.im not offended, just tell./ ask as you with.. im very open minded. hmm.. i can tell you, im skinny,praying hard to gain some weight... attracttive onot? u hv to ask my frens/ bf but i can tel you my weight 48kg, height 166cm some ppl said im pretty, but i dun think so myself, so just ignore that...haha.. body figure cannot tell. later i will be very headache. no body odour.. :lol:

1) does guys dont like to discuss about sex everyday with their partner? when i feel something is wrong. i will try to talk about it. but my bf said my scope very small.. think about sex onli. but honestly, i didnt mention about it non stop or 3-4 times aday.

2) recently, my bf seems wan to work things out. he told me he did some reading about it. and he said he wont diy and i oso hv to do the same.. if we need it.. we will ml.recently, he dun diy and watch porno already. so good fr him and myself. haha.

3) i doubt, my bf has low needs? if it is true.. what can i do? it's very upset/ sad when someone u love canot help out/ cannot satisfied u. we are physical attraction uncompatible???

4) i found my bf seems excited about other gals. i tell him i will let him go find hooker. he seems so excited. but he do tell me not to remind him about it. maybe he is curious about other gals.

5) regarding the housework, he said he will help out.. bt what he had promised, not done yet. any way, i do looking forward he can really help out.

thanks a lot. pls advice.

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Well I tend to see this as a sexual miscommunication. Most probably your boy is (no offense) bored of you. What kind of porn does he watches? What kind of sexual situation turns him on? Perhaps he feels that everytime in love making he needs to do a lot to satisfy the girl, and maybe that's why he avoids from actual sex itself. Or maybe he does not feel turned on by it anymore.

Sometimes when doing it for a long time the passion is lost, and soon either partner gets bored of it and slowly shys away from it because doing it is no longer the mysterious, passionate fun it used to be, but more like a chore.

So here's my advice - research his porn material, then if you know his sexual fantasies, maybe, just maybe there's a way to turn back on the heat between u two.

Are you two living together? Try giving him chances to miss you and such. Complacency in a relationship is one of the major causes of dissatisfaction.

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I think Carin's bf maybe just emotionally like her and less physically. I think it doesnt have to do with her looks. I think this guy just have a certain way to turn him on. Hmm.. sorry to say this. but i really think he;s not attracted to you sexually. It doesnt mean he does not love you or wat. Its just different. I know and i understand, since i have some guy friends who talk about this. BUt somehow, i think u can work it out, try to be much closer to him and makes him comfortable to talk about this. Talk about something sexual but does not involve anything with the two of you. Till he feels comfortable then he will somehow say which way he likes and what turns him on. Let it come out naturally. GUess.,.. this might helps.. Good luck to ya!

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i certainly believe that intercourse plays a major part in any f/m relationship. it's hard to imagine love without love-making. this element is so important to making a relationship lasts and keep the desire burning on.. and on....

sorry to say but if he doesn't satisfy you emotionall or physically (in this case), what's the point keeping him?

i think most guys are always on standby mode waiting to get into action whenever their gfs are ready.

if he no longer has the sexual desire to fornicate with you, is he likely to go out and 'curi makan' when he has the need? give it a thought.

if it does happen, can you live with it?

i know there're lots of guys who like to fool around even though they're attached but what they normally tell me is that their gfs actually allow them to do so as long as they're not caught redhanded. can you believe this? what have our society become of these days? can gals really treat it like nothing ever happened?

i seriously doubt that!

peace to the world...

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hi, my bf and myself has the same interest. we love to keep fishes,pc etc. hehe..we do enjoy going to aquariums shop (at least once a week)..so we have the compatibility! :lol1: our parents like us. they treat us real nice..they treat us a bit like their own kids. :P so im really appreciate that. i love my bf's body odour.. haha...

now, im upset why im always the one who ask for x. :( anyway, i feel very tired about this and i don't want to ask about it any more( 1 yr plus d.. nvr cum in my life, all the while im the one who ask for it- mayb i hv strong neeeds.. am i? ). just let it be lo. but frankly, i can get turned on easily that's why im very co-operative. :D

don't be sad bout it la. everyone has needs. it's not wrong for you to haf higher sex drive than he does. sometimes i haf higher sex drive than my bf does. it's normal. try to stop yourself from asking for sex. see whether he'll initiates sex or not law...

u and ur bf got a good point there. we have to see things in a every angle.im not offended, just tell./ ask as you with.. im very open minded. hmm.. i can tell you, im skinny,praying hard to gain some weight... attracttive onot? u hv to ask my frens/ bf but i can tel you my weight 48kg, height 166cm some ppl said im pretty, but i dun think so myself, so just ignore that...haha.. body figure cannot tell. later i will be very headache. no body odour.. :lol:

haiyo....your body figure is ichiban la! don't understand why your bf doesn't appreciate you.... :doh:

1) does guys dont like to discuss about sex everyday with their partner? when i feel something is wrong. i will try to talk about it. but my bf said my scope very small.. think about sex onli. but honestly, i didnt mention about it non stop or 3-4 times aday.

as far as i know, guys don't talk bout sex everyday with their partners. if it's so, then i bet he's with you just for sex. my bf doesn't talk bout sex everyday. maybe like once in awhile. perhaps once or twice a week or so.

2) recently, my bf seems wan to work things out. he told me he did some reading about it. and he said he wont diy and i oso hv to do the same.. if we need it.. we will ml.recently, he dun diy and watch porno already. so good fr him and myself. haha.

it's a good sign. it proves tht he's trying to make your relationship with him works. thumbs up for him! :clapclap:

3) i doubt, my bf has low needs? if it is true.. what can i do? it's very upset/ sad when someone u love canot help out/ cannot satisfied u. we are physical attraction uncompatible???

maybe so...but if he can DIY & all, i don't think he has a low need in sex. don't be upset. try to consult a doctor or something if you feel tht something is wrong with him.

4) i found my bf seems excited about other gals. i tell him i will let him go find hooker. he seems so excited. but he do tell me not to remind him about it. maybe he is curious about other gals.

hmm...he can be interested in other girls but as in just looking & not touching. but if he's excited bout finding a hooker, then i think there might be a prob with him. unless you can't satisfy him sexually, or else, he won't even think of finding a hooker.

5) regarding the housework, he said he will help out.. bt what he had promised, not done yet. any way, i do looking forward he can really help out.

try to remind him about his promise...maybe just a lil bit of hint or something?

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as i said in previous post~ YES, man would turn on if his love one/the one he love the most(gf or wife) kiss him deeply~ *blush*

yaya.. i feel i more like guys than him. i can turned on with deep kisses.. but he cant. haiz.

i wonder y.. maybe different ppl different style. :lol:

my fren said i love him more than he loves me. haiz.. tat's why he is taking advantage on me.

Well I tend to see this as a sexual miscommunication. Most probably your boy is (no offense) bored of you. What kind of porn does he watches? What kind of sexual situation turns him on? Perhaps he feels that everytime in love making he needs to do a lot to satisfy the girl, and maybe that's why he avoids from actual sex itself. Or maybe he does not feel turned on by it anymore.

Sometimes when doing it for a long time the passion is lost, and soon either partner gets bored of it and slowly shys away from it because doing it is no longer the mysterious, passionate fun it used to be, but more like a chore.

So here's my advice - research his porn material, then if you know his sexual fantasies, maybe, just maybe there's a way to turn back on the heat between u two.

Are you two living together? Try giving him chances to miss you and such. Complacency in a relationship is one of the major causes of dissatisfaction.

he seldom watch porno d nowadays. only read books (not hamsap book).

his fantasy is 3p. i hv no idea~ :unsure:

we are living togather for almost a yr d. maybe passion lost . he is bored d.. i dunno.

any way, he sounds like want to work things out recently. but im vey sian n tired already. anyway, im looking forward.

im trying to stay in another room after my housemate move out. hope it worked!

anyway, i did try no sex with him fr a month.. still the same oso. :whistling:

hope this time can work lo. ^_^ anyway, i also lazy to ask for xxx d. got rejected many times.. he cannot satisfied me all the while .. so now my heart cold d~~~~ :(

i certainly believe that intercourse plays a major part in any f/m relationship. it's hard to imagine love without love-making. this element is so important to making a relationship lasts and keep the desire burning on.. and on....

sorry to say but if he doesn't satisfy you emotionall or physically (in this case), what's the point keeping him?

i think most guys are always on standby mode waiting to get into action whenever their gfs are ready.

if he no longer has the sexual desire to fornicate with you, is he likely to go out and 'curi makan' when he has the need? give it a thought.

if it does happen, can you live with it?

i know there're lots of guys who like to fool around even though they're attached but what they normally tell me is that their gfs actually allow them to do so as long as they're not caught redhanded. can you believe this? what have our society become of these days? can gals really treat it like nothing ever happened?

i seriously doubt that!

peace to the world...

haiz.. my fren told me that he loves me more than i love him.. aiks! they ask me to break with him lo. but any way. i want to give him a try.. coz i still love him.. but im very tired inside d. i oso very blur about myself. :shakehead:

i dunno he got curi makan out side o not. but i think so far he didnt lo. my bf is not in ready mode always. maybe he has low sex drive. :( . i dunno he is likely to go out to curimakan o not. bt he is curious with the feel ml with other gals. mayb this is normal. bcoz i will think tat way sometimes when im really upset/ down of my sex life..

:(

don't be sad bout it la. everyone has needs. it's not wrong for you to haf higher sex drive than he does. sometimes i haf higher sex drive than my bf does. it's normal. try to stop yourself from asking for sex. see whether he'll initiates sex or not law...

haiyo....your body figure is ichiban la! don't understand why your bf doesn't appreciate you.... :doh:

as far as i know, guys don't talk bout sex everyday with their partners. if it's so, then i bet he's with you just for sex. my bf doesn't talk bout sex everyday. maybe like once in awhile. perhaps once or twice a week or so.

it's a good sign. it proves tht he's trying to make your relationship with him works. thumbs up for him! :clapclap:

maybe so...but if he can DIY & all, i don't think he has a low need in sex. don't be upset. try to consult a doctor or something if you feel tht something is wrong with him.

hmm...he can be interested in other girls but as in just looking & not touching. but if he's excited bout finding a hooker, then i think there might be a prob with him. unless you can't satisfy him sexually, or else, he won't even think of finding a hooker.

try to remind him about his promise...maybe just a lil bit of hint or something?

i didnt ask for sex d.. as i said in early post.. im giving up asking d. any way, im upset y he canot satisfied me. any idea??? i feel real depress about this.. :(

thank for ur encouragement! i dun talk about it so frequent already.. just giv him some hint about what i like/ feel good. ^_^

i dunno he need doctor o not. but from what he told me. he afraid he will climax inside. so .............. but with condom.. he will do the same oso. so i hv no idea. maybe he has low stamina. ^_^

he ask for my permission for few times ade. but even i giv him permission.. he dun go also because he said he scare/ paiseh to go there? his fren may look down on him wor. bt in this case. i think if he has kawan to go with him.. i think definitely he will go lo.. any comment? i just feel upset.. y he still think of hooker / 3p ??is he curious??

i feeel sad lo.. after i giv him almost 2 yrs ago.. he cannot satisfied me.. then some more rejectted ml with me..(not in stand by mode) why he put me into this. let me hv the desire then dun wan to please me. :( feeels like got fooled lo.....

thanks for ur advice. i will remind him slowly... :P

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poor you carin. get on with life... ditch him

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i didnt ask for sex d.. as i said in early post.. im giving up asking d. any way, im upset y he canot satisfied me. any idea??? i feel real depress about this.. :(

thank for ur encouragement! i dun talk about it so frequent already.. just giv him some hint about what i like/ feel good. ^_^

i dunno he need doctor o not. but from what he told me. he afraid he will climax inside. so .............. but with condom.. he will do the same oso. so i hv no idea. maybe he has low stamina. ^_^

he ask for my permission for few times ade. but even i giv him permission.. he dun go also because he said he scare/ paiseh to go there? his fren may look down on him wor. bt in this case. i think if he has kawan to go with him.. i think definitely he will go lo.. any comment? i just feel upset.. y he still think of hooker / 3p ??is he curious??

i feeel sad lo.. after i giv him almost 2 yrs ago.. he cannot satisfied me.. then some more rejectted ml with me..(not in stand by mode) why he put me into this. let me hv the desire then dun wan to please me. :( feeels like got fooled lo.....

thanks for ur advice. i will remind him slowly... :P

i feel sorry for u..he is lame la :loser:

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my bf suggests tht you ask him to eat viagra...besides, he thinks tht it's because of his psychological prob also. he got ex-es or not? ask them whether they experienced the same thing like you do or not la.

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Umm.. viagra doesn't turn a person on.. it just make the ejaculation lasts longer... I think if the source is not able to get turn on, viagra probably won't be a good idea

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i didnt ask for sex d.. as i said in early post.. im giving up asking d. any way, im upset y he canot satisfied me. any idea??? i feel real depress about this.. :(

thank for ur encouragement! i dun talk about it so frequent already.. just giv him some hint about what i like/ feel good. ^_^

i dunno he need doctor o not. but from what he told me. he afraid he will climax inside. so .............. but with condom.. he will do the same oso. so i hv no idea. maybe he has low stamina. ^_^

he ask for my permission for few times ade. but even i giv him permission.. he dun go also because he said he scare/ paiseh to go there? his fren may look down on him wor. bt in this case. i think if he has kawan to go with him.. i think definitely he will go lo.. any comment? i just feel upset.. y he still think of hooker / 3p ??is he curious??

i feeel sad lo.. after i giv him almost 2 yrs ago.. he cannot satisfied me.. then some more rejectted ml with me..(not in stand by mode) why he put me into this. let me hv the desire then dun wan to please me. :( feeels like got fooled lo.....

thanks for ur advice. i will remind him slowly... :P

he lacks of imagination of what to do la...try some roleplaying first, get him comfortable...maybe 2-3 times u guys roleplay only...slowly move your activites to *ahem* when he's starting to get more and more comfortable...don't rush him, one fine day he'll be able to make it.

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he lacks of imagination of what to do la...try some roleplaying first, get him comfortable...maybe 2-3 times u guys roleplay only...slowly move your activites to *ahem* when he's starting to get more and more comfortable...don't rush him, one fine day he'll be able to make it.

u mean i hv to please him more a?! ^_^

my bf suggests tht you ask him to eat viagra...besides, he thinks tht it's because of his psychological prob also. he got ex-es or not? ask them whether they experienced the same thing like you do or not la.

bf dun hv ex. both of us also 1st love :P

maybe he lost the good feelings after doing for sometime?

hmm.. while f*. i feel good from the begining.. but later feel not so good d o.

i think he feel the same (as i observed), that's y he diy??

any ideA?

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bf dun hv ex. both of us also 1st love :P

maybe he lost the good feelings after doing for sometime?

hmm.. while f*. i feel good from the begining.. but later feel not so good d o.

i think he feel the same (as i observed), that's y he diy??

any ideA?

Hmm does it start to get boring after pumping for a while?

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