92 replies to this topic

[tash]

hi guys,

ive got married last year (may), n now ive start noticing that he hardly had sex with me. just once in a week n that make four times a month. how can u xplain that. i asked him if hes having sex with some one else, but hes answer is no n that he will never do such a thing and i trust him. as far as our relationship, we get along very well. we have a very cosy and sweet relationship but no sex at all. am getting mad.

[Sam]

Maybe you can try more teasing and seducing moves on him.

[Venni Vetti Vecci]

You'll never get the truth if u ask ur partner if he/she is sleeping with someone else.... so dont bother asking.

If me and my husband were having less sex than usual, id definitenly suspect somethings up. Not trynna make you worry or anything, just watch out and see wsup with him...

[tsukushi]

tired from work?? maybe he's just overworked and no energy left to shag you? beats me...

[Cas]

hey come on, let's on go hard on her husband. Your husband isn't cheating on you i'm sure. The thing is, men are visual people, very very visual. Although they would deny it, any woman who passes by in skimpy clothes, or with a pair of nice boobies on them will def get their attention, even if its for a split second.

Once you're married (esp if it's over a year), everything becomes a routine and its true that married women become less bothered with their appearance. eg: when you're at home with him u'll be in no makeup and t-shirt and shorts and this of course does not augur well visually for him. Try suprising him by making him a romantic dinner with some wine, put on some soft music (think marvin gaye, barry white) and have dinner wearing your sexiest lingerie. I assure you one thing will lead to another Also, do this on a weekend coz it's true, men do get stressed out on weekdays due to work. And a little bit of alcohol always works, for some reason. Alternately, all men do get aroused in the wee hours in the morning (scientist still don't know why) so you might want to take that as an opportunity, lol. Good luck babe!

[MayWong]

heya..

i just got registered last dec...

so far, no change in our sex life. things are pretty usual.

sometimes, if your hubby is not in the mood, then just have a romantic nite on the bed, chit chatting, eating chocs and watching tv. dont feel worried or force him into it. its true guys do get moody and tired, especially when facing stress from work. a quality session would do as well as sex.

Cas is very right, do not neglect your appearances. Even b4 going to bed, i'll put on nice smelling lotion and different lingerie off and on to suprise him.

stash some wine at home, occationally, just chill out with some wine and good music

most importantly, dont keep this to yourself, speak to ur hubby about it, in a nice sweet discussion.

[j33h@u]

do something special on your sex life, i believe human begin will be bored if all the time doin the same things, something special or changes will helps on that. try try..... take it easy, don think negatively... take care babe....

[tash]

thx girls,
can any one out there tell how many times a week are u having sex?. hope that u dont take it in a bad way. i just wanna what is going wrong in our relationship. we got da whole life to b together and i dnt want it to have such a bad start. hope u get me what am tring to say. am ten years younger than him and i want to enjoy ma sex life as he is the only man in ma life.

[Joukowski]

Does that happen in your family?

[Quen^nie]

hahah this is possible.

[StuPidGal]

erm... do you rejected him a lot last time? mayb he fetup of asking to get sex....
so don't worry so much la.... just get yourself pretty... and im sure one day he will be seduced by you

[j33h@u]

thx girls,
can any one out there tell how many times a week are u having sex?. hope that u dont take it in a bad way. i just wanna what is going wrong in our relationship. we got da whole life to b together and i dnt want it to have such a bad start. hope u get me what am tring to say. am ten years younger than him and i want to enjoy ma sex life as he is the only man in ma life.

more or less once a week .....

[Chipmunk]

Well, tash, have u talked to your hubby and find out as to why he's not as into sex as before? Try talking to him and finding out why. Communication is a key here.

I have my own problem wz my wife. We got married in July '07 and so far, we've had sex like 3 times? Yes, it's unbelievable and lots of people says I'm lying and all. But it's the truth. I've talked to her and she says she's not interested in it. SO, now I'm kinda stuck and am trying to find some way of getting her interested once more. Sigh.

[RevolutioGuy]

hi guys,

ive got married last year (may), n now ive start noticing that he hardly had sex with me. just once in a week n that make four times a month. how can u xplain that. i asked him if hes having sex with some one else, but hes answer is no n that he will never do such a thing and i trust him. as far as our relationship, we get along very well. we have a very cosy and sweet relationship but no sex at all. am getting mad.

Hi Tash

I believe your hubby is not unfaithful to you and it could be thousand and one reason. If he is, you can sense it immediately on how he reject or make love to you. We men need a lot of visual in order to rage our sexual hormones.

Now you are in a different stage of life and you can see why those lingerie in the supermarket selling like hotcake.Sometimes men is such a silly creature cos it is only change of cloth but they love it.

[anthem]

i can only get intimate wit my gf every 6 months....

[srinthia]

Hi all,

Just register in today exspecially after reading this topic.

I thought in this world, only me facing this problem. Gosh.. Most of us rowing in the smae boat.

I married to my husband July'07 after in love for 7years.
We do had sex before marriage and i didn't encouter anything. But after my wedding,
my trauma even started on our honeymoon. He seems to be not intrested at all.

After marriage till now we only have sex once a month and if there's any special
occasion like my birthday or anniversary or sumthing. And I have to be the one who gonna initiate this.

But other than sex, he is so good as husband like kissing in cheeks, hugging, tickling.

Everything normal except sex. Any idea ??

PS! i tried everything like seduce, talk to him, everything and all he say was " NO MOOD ".
We argue a lot due to this.

Edited by srinthia, 05 February 2008 - 02:31 PM.

[j33h@u]

Hi all,

Just register in today exspecially after reading this topic.

I thought in this world, only me facing this problem. Gosh.. Most of us rowing in the smae boat.

I married to my husband July'07 after in love for 7years.
We do had sex before marriage and i didn't encouter anything. But after my wedding,
my trauma even started on our honeymoon. He seems to be not intrested at all.

After marriage till now we only have sex once a month and if there's any special
occasion like my birthday or anniversary or sumthing. And I have to be the one who gonna initiate this.

But other than sex, he is so good as husband like kissing in cheeks, hugging, tickling.

Everything normal except sex. Any idea ??

PS! i tried everything like seduce, talk to him, everything and all he say was " NO MOOD ".
We argue a lot due to this.

all the time mood is playing the first role, i might consider ur husband is in presure after marriage and the stress on working life, i believe it is not easy to a man to build up a family, take it easy, you can try something special or do view from his point of view....

[tash]

hey jineil2en,

helping tools... it sound ridiculouss. dont be offended,but i noticed something abt you. u always give kind of a stupid advice. how can my husband be gay if we got married. u sais once ur collegue was a gay and got married. my dear friend we are in 2008, darn it.for god sake if we knw we are gay how can we just under family pressure just get married. am in uk here might and i wonder wer r u from.

hi synthia,
hop u coping with ur situation. only us who are dealing with such situation know thru wat we are going thru, innit. let me tell congrats to get married for the one u been for abt seven years. you been having sex before u get married,yeah.might be bcoz of that. i was a virgin before getting married. in the beginning it was ok. but now it felt a little bit of boring. but we do have lots of hugging fighting on the bed.

well, i was talking to one of my colleague and you wat he said to me. how u will feel if u get to eat the same kind of food every day. fed up. well men are like that u know. even if u are having sex just once a month, no wonder its really beatifull n u having lots of fun.

i dnt wanna hear any kind of impulsive advice,please. be realistic.

[Chipmunk]

Hi all,

Just register in today exspecially after reading this topic.

I thought in this world, only me facing this problem. Gosh.. Most of us rowing in the smae boat.

I married to my husband July'07 after in love for 7years.
We do had sex before marriage and i didn't encouter anything. But after my wedding,
my trauma even started on our honeymoon. He seems to be not intrested at all.

After marriage till now we only have sex once a month and if there's any special
occasion like my birthday or anniversary or sumthing. And I have to be the one who gonna initiate this.

But other than sex, he is so good as husband like kissing in cheeks, hugging, tickling.

Everything normal except sex. Any idea ??

PS! i tried everything like seduce, talk to him, everything and all he say was " NO MOOD ".
We argue a lot due to this.

Hey, Same month. . I know ur frustration, but patience IS a virtue and it can sometimes pay off. I've been nagging my wife to go for a check-up coz she's been worried that something's wrong wz her. Well, after months of nagging, it's paid off and we went together for a check. Good news is physically she's ok. Guess I'll have to start seducing her myself. ROFL. As for your hubbby, like some of the members said, it COULD be stress, and like tash's colleague said, it COULD be boredom. I guess you will have to get your hubby to sit down and talk to him. Tell him how you feel, and what you can do to help him out. Something may be bothering him. If it's boredom, you can always spice up your sex life wz toys and lingeries and surf the web for some new ideas.

hey jineil2en,

helping tools... it sound ridiculouss. dont be offended,but i noticed something abt you. u always give kind of a stupid advice. how can my husband be gay if we got married. u sais once ur collegue was a gay and got married. my dear friend we are in 2008, darn it.for god sake if we knw we are gay how can we just under family pressure just get married. am in uk here might and i wonder wer r u from.

hi synthia,
hop u coping with ur situation. only us who are dealing with such situation know thru wat we are going thru, innit. let me tell congrats to get married for the one u been for abt seven years. you been having sex before u get married,yeah.might be bcoz of that. i was a virgin before getting married. in the beginning it was ok. but now it felt a little bit of boring. but we do have lots of hugging fighting on the bed.

well, i was talking to one of my colleague and you wat he said to me. how u will feel if u get to eat the same kind of food every day. fed up. well men are like that u know. even if u are having sex just once a month, no wonder its really beatifull n u having lots of fun.

i dnt wanna hear any kind of impulsive advice,please. be realistic.

Hi Tash,

Well, like I said, do talk to him and find out what's bothering him. It could be stress or pressure from work or his subconciousness. Sometimes, it's simple things like something putting him off last time, or not performing to his own expectation last time that could cause him to be not interested. It's the same thing wz me. Taking small step at a time, like peeling onions. Cheers.

[jvcpcv555]

seduce him more....

i think your problemminght be the age gap....

he may not able to cope with your demand as the energy / urge is drying up....

u need to be more aggrasive to assure him that......

[dotti]

This topic has suddenly become personal How's things with your husband now, Tash?

[jaygee]

lol wth relax people. drink couple bud light and chill.

tash just needs to seduce the husband more. i dunno wat husband wont have sex with his wife some more just married not long....

[tIcKLeMe]

EXCUSE ME, please stay on topic and give constructive comments please.

this topic has gone out of control and i think everyone should just focus on helping tash instead of insulting her. that was totally uncalled for. do take note that the moderators & admins are watching this thread carefully. giving possible suggestions are okay but insulting others are completely unacceptable.

p/s: do take note that hurtful insulting comments have been deleted. please feel free to report to any moderators/admins should it ever happen again. thanks & enjoy discussing!

p/ss: good luck to you tash! hope you'll get it sorted out asap.

Edited by tIcKLeMe, 17 February 2008 - 02:40 AM.

[elle]

hey people, I believe Tash started this topic with the intention to have suggestions and opinions from other people. But, why are there insults? Why is it going on to a personal level and all those flaming war. WHY?

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It clearly stated in the rules.

Period.

Back to topic, thanks for your co-operation

[suYUki]

tash, i gotto agree with cas and MayWong, some how need to take things slowly, try to have nice chat with him. He might have been extremely stress out because of work load.
Have you guys thought of going for vacation for a break just to relax. It might help.
I found a quote, but not sure how true it is.
When a man loves a woman, periodically he needs to pull away before he can get closer. - John Gray
Remember you are not the only person that facing this kind of problem. Cheer up babe.

[Chipmunk]

Yes, do take it easy. Go for a vacation with your hubby to unwind. For me and my wife, we may not be having sex, but we do continue being intimate to each other. Well, of course, there's a book that says:

For Guys, Intimate=Sex.
For Gals, Intimate=Talk.

In any case, do go have some fun activities together and just enjoy life. No point gnawing over things till it become raw.

[mixybabe]

Not sure about you guys. I guess I'm kinda facing the similar problem. My bf also has mood for sex. As he will be extra excited when we're on vacation, whereby he always say that he's stress-free during vacation and have special feeling towards making love. Normal days, I will have to bear with him as and when he's tired after work, he'll try not to get into love-making and stuffs. Somehow he's thinking a lot about his work and stress at work. Maybe ur hubby is facing some problem at work which he's not ab;e to share with you as he does not wanna burden you and it leads to no mood in having sex. Like what others said, you should have a talk with him. Perhaps when he manage to take some time off, just get a weekend (2days), get out of town, sea side or somewhere quiet, spend a night just the 2 of u n peaceful surrounding. It may spice up your love life.

[anthem]

sending sexy/seductive sms also will help...at least this is wat me and my gf are doing.


by the way, we are 1651km away from each other... while this msg is being type, she's 7394 km away some more...

[ceilygirl]

any nice songs to play during the "ahem" time?? nice songs tto get in the mood

[Azxel]

any nice songs to play during the "ahem" time?? nice songs tto get in the mood

erm.. songs like "eye of the tiger" ?