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  1. Marriage and life-after-marriage is never easy. Recently, I found myself in a tough situation. My parents have two daughters. Being very conservative and old-fashinoed, they have always been very concerned because they do not have a son to carry their surname in the next generation. You know, typical chinese, particularly my mum. Because of this, my mum has many ridiculous suggestions to me and my husband. Before this, she went all out to ensure that my husband and me stay with them after our marriage. Of course, we insisted that we want to move out and stay in our own place and we are glad that it's exactly what we did. That was only one fo the many examples of suggestions and actions which she did in ensuring that somebody carries the surname of my family. Recently, she came out with even more ridiculous suggestion which is driving me nuts and putting me in a tough situation. She insisted that my second son must carry two surnames, one which is my husband's surname and the other one my surname. So imagine, my boy to carry surname like this "TAN NG". In future he will be known as "Mr. TAN NG". Which I think is utter rubbish and nonsense. The thing is this, even if I agree with her. there is no way my husband's family side, particularly my parents-in-law will agree. They too, are very conservative typical chinese family. I do not even dare to tell my husband this. This will push him into a tough situation and whatever decision he made, he is going to hurt my parents or his parents. Personally, I would like to tell my mum to be more reasonable. I could not agree with her suggestion on the following reasons : (1) It's so weird for a person to carry two surnames (2) My sons, being siblings, will have different surnames. The eldest one carries "Tan" as his surname and the other carries "Tan Ng" (3) There are other better option to ensure that the surname of the family is carried by the next generation. For example, adopt a child and put "NG" as his surname and raise him up. After all, my parents are always talking about having a son. I need advice on how to tell my mum a strict "NO" and how to prevent her from bringing this issue up again. So how do i tell her off once and for all?
  2. I understand that things must be difficult for you. But rememeber, you do not choose to spend the rest of your life with a man because you've had sex with him before. That's too silly. You deserve better. You choose your life partner because of true love. If you choose to stay with him just because of the fact that you've made love with him, this relationship will give rise to a lot of problems in the future and it is going nowhere. Do not blame yourself for being "blind". We all do mistakes. It's human to err. Most importantly, you learn from your mistakes and move on in life. Remember that lessons in life always come with a high price to pay. So make sure that the price which you paid for making this mistake is worth it and you don't repeat the same mistake again in the future. That's what life is all about anyway I hope that you will make the right decision for yourself. Only you will know what is best for yourself
  3. [quote name='*~YuMikO~*' date='10 July 2010 - 10:23 PM' timestamp='1278771783' post='586092'] babes, share with us how many slimming products have you tried. For me >20 brands since age of 15. ranging frm watson brands ages ago those 21st century lau sai tea, NH detox slim, tummy fat blocker, L-carnitine, surut, kordel carbo blocker, argh.. many more from watson cant remember all. Then i too tried those from cosway, oriyen, papain something, lite tea, few more which i cant remember the name. when i got older a little, i began to try more expensive brands such as dr.diet, herbalife, total life, hydroxycut, xenadrine, reductil, tian tian jian ren, then, siy,clenz, obexlim , thinsline, leptin were this most recent year. i finally stop gila trying out after taking SIY. [/quote] I have tried numerous brands but to no avail also. I have tried NH Detox-tea, NH Xlim Tummy and AyurSlim Detox-tea. Hmmm.... even herbalife didnt work for you? I heard that it is one of the most effective slimming products out there. I am recently trying Biolyn's slimming product. Yet to see results. Hopefully it works
  4. No. Once a couple breaks up, there should be a boundary between the both of them. If you let things go on like that, the situation will be very complicated and misleading for you. You should be strict and learn how to say 'no' under appropriate circumstances. Do not be fooled and do not let her play with your feelings. You deserve to live a happier life.
  5. [quote name='freakymie' date='16 July 2010 - 10:39 AM' timestamp='1279247990' post='586354'] Dear Queenwa, it tears me to say this, but looks like your boyfriend is looking for a million and one excuses to break up with you, and its not genuinely because he feels he isnt good enough for you. when you love someone, no matter how bad you feel you are for the significant other, you wouldnt let go of the person cos you love him/her too much to let them go. my advice, move on, there are plenty of fish in the sea and one of themis odd to love you too much to let you go someday. [/quote] I think freakymie is right. Love is selfish in nature. If he really loves you, he wouldn't let you go. If he really loves you, he would do all that he could to improve himself to prove his love to you, and not by finding excuses to break up with you. You should let go. If both of you are meant to be, he will come back. If he doesn't, he is not yours to even begin with. Every girl has first love. But not everyone marries their first lover. His actions show that he is trying to find excuses to break up with you, although his words might be misleading and confusing. He told your best friend simply because he knows your best friend will in turn pass the words to you. In my opinion, you should not be fooled. I think this guy, whatever reason he has, is playing with your feelings. Remember, a smart woman hears but never believes, kisses but never loves, and leaves before she is being left.
  6. I agree with Carmen. Sometimes, we can't help ourselves from getting over sensitive but always remember that in a relationship, do not fret over the small stuffs
  7. Our love story started because of a car accident in the car park near my office. I was a new driver then and my parking skills was bad. I was trying to park at a narrow parking space when I accidentally hit the bumper of my car against the wall and to make matter worse, I even scratched the car next to mine a little. I was panic and all by then... What a bad way to start my day, I thought! When I went in to my office, I was asking around if anybody could helped me and that was when I bumped into him. Prior to that, we knew each other but were never close. after hearing my story, he offered to go down to the car park and have a look at my car and the damage. He called to ask for mechanic's help and even handle the damages that I made. After that, we met up for lunch, and then followed by movie.... One thing leads to another, and today, we are happily building a strong and steady relationship!.
  8. My SO is too attached to his mum and family members. He's a mummy's boy and love his family members above everything else. I would love my SO to be a good son and all, but not to the extent that he neglects me. I have no say at all in his family because he listens to his mother all the time. I just have to shut up when I am at his house. He even let his mum to decide where do we stay after marriage, when to get married and how many children to have. It's just so irritating!
  9. My SO is very romantic and love to give me surprises. He plans and gives me surprises on the 9th of every month because we started our relationship on that date. So, he makes sure that we celebrate our so-called monthly anniversary.
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